Life's a Beach.

 

      

It's vacation time, and I am currently getting ready to go to Holden Beach, North Carolina.  As you can imagine, I'm getting really pumped.  By this time tomorrow, Ill be within sight of the ocean, shell searching, feeling the fresh sea breeze, and of course dining on delicious seafood!  The beach to me is just an awesome vacation spot.  I often think of how lucky those permanent beach bums are, With the panorama of the ocean outside their window day after day, and the freshest shrimp and fish on their plates every night.  But do those said bums really feel that lucky?  As spring has turned to summer, I have seen an increasing trickle of out of state traffic, all heading through the hills of West Virginia where I live.  Many of these cars have plates from such far flung places as North and South Carolina and Florida.  I Wonder why these beach bums are venturing nine hours or more north, to a landlocked, hilly state.  Could this be where beach bums go for vacation? I imagine the conversations that must be going on in the cars: " are we there yet?  I wanna see a real bear!"  "wow. look at all those deer kids"  "Smell that fresh air, I'm so glad we could make it to the mountains this year.  everything is so green and the weather is nice and cool".  etc etc.  So the beach bums head to the mountains, and the hillbillies head to the beaches.  Both I and the beach bums have valid points about how great the mountains and the beach can be.  How would our life change I wonder, if we had the same appreciation for our home territory that out of staters have?  How much would it increase the quality of our lives to walk out on our porch each morning and let the wonder of our surroundings wash over us as if we were experiencing it for the first time?  Like I said in the title,  when you get in the right frame of mind, regardless of where you happen to be at the moment, life's a beach.

On Experiencing Wonder Again

"The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: his eyes are closed."

~Albert Einstein~

How long has it been, I wonder, since you’ve had your breath taken away, since you’ve been completely delighted? When was the last time that you were speechless with joy, or laughter? If you aren’t experiencing moments like these in your life with some regularity, perhaps it’s time to reassess the reason your doing what you’re doing. I've been blessed in the last 6 months to have many such moments, and its awakened me to the fact that for a time, I wasn’t having so many of these moments. In looking back, I believe I can identify three things that I was doing in my life that were keeping me from having those “speechless” moments:

1) I was moving too fast~ I know I've mentioned this in my previous post, but it just can’t be overstated. During the time when my life had few moments of wonder, I was constantly on the run. My weekends were spent seeking some fun and adventure that was at least several hours from home. Now, there's nothing wrong with travel, and I love travel. But when you try to force too much travel, too many experiences, too much fun, into too short an amount of time, what you end up with is one fun but stressful blur. I have experienced many more moments of wonder laying in the grass around my house, or walking in the woods right outside my door.

2) I was spending too much~ This really goes with point one. I've found that my low key, low cost adventures yield my a much richer experience than those that I payed out the nose for. There are some exceptions to this, but they are few and far between.

3) I had no time for introspection~ At the end of my day I was so tired and exhausted that I usually couldn’t even fire off a half baked prayer, let alone have the leisure to reflect on the events of the day. This kind of living leads to what I call a reactionary lifestyle. We get to moving so fast that we have no time to determine why we are doing the things we do. We simply must react. This type of unconscious, unintentional living is one of the best ways to waste ten years of your life, or find that somehow your life is not turning out anything like you had planned.

So those are just three things that, once removed, have brought back the “wow” factor in my life. So take some time today and reflect. What makes you smile? What stops you in your tracks? What makes you laugh so hard that you cry? Figure out what it is, and put your life back in tune.

The Perfect Now

As you might have noted, there was no post for yesterday here on SqueezedFresh. No I haven’t given it up, in fact, I've been making some great online relationships, and just recently got included in the Living by Design blog carnival number 23! All of this has been great, so why skip the all important Monday? Well, I was out having adventures and misadventures on my motorcycle all day. Long story made short, I rode over 200 miles, experienced both some of the most stressful and most relaxing road that I've yet rode on, and failed a motorcycle skills test. Although this may sound like a weak excuse for missing my post day, I really feel that I realized something important out there on the road. The pavement was perfect, the sun was shining, the sky was blue, and I was HAPPY. I wasn’t reading about being happy, I wasn’t thinking about how to have happiness in my life, I wasn’t trying to lifehack anything. I was just enjoying the beautiful perfect NOW. I had another moment of perfect now yesterday evening. I was laying in the grass with Micalyn, and we were listening to the sounds of kids playing, watching clouds, and simply enjoying one another's presence. It was perfect. It didn’t need to be thought about, or analyzed. The perfect now can’t be looked at in that sense. Instead, you’ve just got to absorb it, soak it in. If any of you are like me, you have a mind that needs to make lists, analyze, and ponder. But sometimes in our pursuit of happiness we just need to stop all of that higher intellectual function and just BE. So today’s post is an encouragement to you. Leave your desk, skip the blog post, and go find your perfect now!

INTERACT: Breaking down the barrier beween the reader and the author

Well, its the end of my first month of consistent blogging. I must say that I am enjoying it quite a lot thus far. The ability to voice ideas and be read is extremely cathartic to me, and I have begun to anticipate each posting. One aspect of blogging that I have grown to really love is the immediate and instant contact with the reader. I find that this instant feedback refreshes me, and inspires me to write well. What I want to do with this post is get even more personal in my interaction with my readers. To that end, I have placed a twitter widget and a IM widget on FreshSqueezed. So please, feel free to drop me a line. Complain, comment, trade ideas and opinions, or just say hi. I would love to hear from you. This to me is one of the most exciting aspects of digital publishing. not only for ones voice to be heard, but to build relationships with ones readership. how exciting!

Weekend Pearl: The Best Place to Learn Guitar

"Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life."

~Berthold Auerbach~

I love music. A lot. For years, my love was limited to appreciating the work of others, then I learned to play guitar. Now my love borders on obsession. The ability to play has really enriched my life, and I want to share with you what I have found to be the best site to learn how to play. Its Called Chordie.com. You don't need any formal training or knowledge of guitar in order to get started. In fact, with a little persistence you could probably learn a simple song in just one day. There are even diagrams to show you how to play each chord. Check out this public songbook that has some easy to play songs. So use the weekend and open some new doors in your mind!

Use Multitasking to Enhance your Focus

Vision, discipline and focus. With these three life skills in abundance, there's very little that we can’t do. I like to think of my life as blank slate upon which I am free to express myself as I choose. But what if you or I lack one of these skills? Does missing of one of these hold us back from becoming who and what we want to become? When I look at them, I can see where a deficiency here does indeed hold me back. For me, its focus. I have always had a distinct vision of what I want to do with my life, and medical school has taught me a lot about discipline (though I'm still learning). What really holds me back from my aspirations becoming reality is my lack of focus. Maybe it’s that I have a touch of ADD, and maybe it’s that I just have a busy mind, but it seems that throughout life, I've had trouble focusing on a task, and completing tasks. Of late though, I've been becoming much more productive through the art of conscious multitasking. This really first occurred to me when I realized that I constantly broke up my study by doodling, or checking on something on the internet, or just walking around my apartment. I just couldn’t seem to focus for more than about 20 minutes at a time. And so, as you can imagine, my productivity was horrible. That’s when I decided to consciously multitask. Instead of just performing random activity when my attention needed to focus, I had other things I could do that would be a productive distraction. Now I can set out things at the start of the day, and when I feel my attention drift, I pay bills, answer email, write my blog post, or study something entirely different for about ten minutes. Even on medical rotations, there is often an opportunity for some calculated distraction (ie, reading a handbook on downtime, etc). This has allowed me to indulge my desire to multitask, and actually become more productive. I realize that not everyone is like me. I have friends who need to be distraction free in order to concentrate. But if you’re someone who finds it maddening to try and focus in a “quiet study environment”, then maybe it’s time to stop fighting your nature. Put on some music, go with your flow, and be productively distracted. [photo via businessweek]

The Imperative to Create

“True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.”

~Antoine de Saint-Exupery~

Last weekend, I went to a cabin retreat with some friends. It was just a time for everyone to relax and unwind (and contributed to the absence of posts this week). I considered working on a new post over the weekend, but I couldn't quit fiddling with my rekindled interest in ink sketching. Micalyn and I had bought art supplies to play with since the forecast called for rain, and I chose some ink and nibs. Initially when I sat down with my new supplies, I just doodled. As I continued to play around however, some great ideas began to flit back and forth in my mind. Then I really found my muse, and for the rest of the rainy day, that's what I worked on. In that moment I had an epiphany that has been burgeoning in my mind since I began writing for SqueezedFresh. I had forgotten the joy of creating. I had forgotten the catharsis of making something, instead of consuming something. We have become increasingly a culture of consumers instead of creators, and have forgotten the joy in producing something original and uniquely ours. In a prior post, I wrote about the potential power of the web to bring forth a remix culture, but I didn't really stress how important I feel it is to the human soul that this culture grow and spread. Throughout our past, individuals have always created. Many times this creativity was spurred by necessity. In this modern time, where our every need is met, what is the spark that will bring us back to the act of creation? I think that in this time of convenience and consumerism, we need desperately to rediscover the unique joy of being creators. We need to learn not only to enjoy works of art, music, and cinema, but to produce them. The tools are at our fingertips like never before. So let this be your wake up call. Get out there and cut, paste, draw, write, act, play, and create!

5 Blogs that will improve your life

Anyone who has ever read a book knows about the potential that a good read has to mold your philosophies and changed your perception of life. Well, a good blog can do the same thing. In fact, a blog arguably has more potential because of the increased intimacy between the blogger and their audience. Below you’ll find the five blogs that have enhanced my view on life in a very positive way. They have made me a better person, so I thought I’d share them with my readers.

Zen Habits- This is overall my absolute favorite blog. Leo is a fantastic blogger, and his consistently thoughtful and gracious writing has many times changed how I view the world. I couldn’t speak highly enough of this blog.

Life Remix- The recently launched Life Remix is a collection of the crème ala crème of personal development blogs. It’s a great blog for discovering other writers that you really enjoy.

Lifehacker- For all things digital, it doesn’t get any better. Lifehacker has multiple writers so it’s constantly updated and consistently useful.

Get Rich Slowly- Money isn’t what happiness is all about, and it much easier to accept that when your not struggling with debt. This blog will change how you think about money.

Lifedev- Productivity can be about one of two things. It can be about getting more done in your day, or it can by about getting your day done in less time. Whichever one of these scenarios fits you, you’ll find lots of ways to achieve it on Lifedev.

And lastly of course there’s squeezedfresh! I created this blog because I could never find anyone who was writing consistently on our ever shifting culture. So read on, and make friends with some good blogs.

Six Benefits to Creating a Personal Manifesto

“Preparation for old age should begin not later than one's teens. A life which is empty of purpose until 65 will not suddenly become filled on retirement.”

~ Dwight L. Moody ~

man·i·fes·to (mān'ə-fěs'tō) n. pl. man·i·fes·toes or man·i·fes·tos A public declaration of principles, policies, or intentions, especially of a political nature. intr.v.
man·i·fes·toed, man·i·fes·to·ing, Man·i·fes·toes To issue such a declaration.

Although most of us associate manifestos with communist regimes, the reality is that any group party or individual can create one. A manifesto is merely a document outlining principles and beliefs. In this article, I’m going to elucidate the benefits of creating your own personal manifesto. This article will be followed up by a Howto on exactly how to go about writing yours.

Six Benefits of writing your manifesto

1) Know thyself

Writing your principles, goals, and intentions out is a great way to engage in some self exploration. In fact, you may actually be surprised by what you discover about yourself when you actually sit down and make yourself articulate what you want.

2) Solidify what it actually is that you want out of life
Many times we don’t get what we want out of life because we don’t really know what we want. We drift through each day with only a hazy set of goals and aspirations. In such a state, it’s easy to make missteps. Writing out your goals in life is a one effective method to really define to yourself what you want.

3) Reassess your life’s direction
When you do write out your manifesto, you may be shocked to realize that what you want out of life and where you’re going in life are two different things. It’s very common to allow the daily grind to bury our most cherished dreams in a heap of bill paying, careless spending, and just generally following the path of least resistance. Although this realization may be dismaying, it’s a priceless epiphany if you actually want to someday live your dreams.

4) Motivate yourself
Whenever you feel like your life is going nowhere, you can always pull out a personal manifesto and draw inspiration from your dreams. If your grinding through a hard time at work or school, you can look at those dreams and know that the sacrifices you are making in your life will someday pay off big.

5) Keep a record of your personal growth
One of the neatest things you can do is reassess and rewrite your manifesto each year (or every six months, etcetera). After a few incarnations, you will really be able to see your growth as a person. It’s a fascinating and useful tool for introspection that will help you to see the person you were, as well as the person you are becoming.

6) Stay on track.
Take your personal manifesto and post it on your fridge or cubicle wall, and you will be amazed at how much easier it is to chase down your dreams. There’s something about having a tangible representation of your personal beliefs and goals that is very empowering. So go ahead create yours today!